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How I transformed my money mindset

If you’ve been following my ‘blogs, you will know that one of the deep-dive pieces of work I’ve been doing in the last year or so is specifically around my money-mindset. Society messages such as “money doesn’t grow on trees” and “a day’s work for a day’s pay”  and society’s general “lack mentality” – “there’s never enough to go around” had me solidly blocked. I spent a great deal of my twenties spending money I didn’t have and then living way below my potential because all of my disposable (and some of my essential) income was being used to service debt.

I definitely had self-sabotage going on in my past and women especially are taught to “make do” with lower levels of resources, for themselves more than anything else. Some women even feel like they are “cheating” if money starts to flow “too easily”. And because life is always flowing on, you might not even be aware that you’re blocked and sabotaging yourself, you might think that this is just the way it is and that’s pretty much that.

It wasn’t really until my late thirties that I got a proper handle on what was going on with my money and the fact that I seemingly spent it like water and never had enough of it. No savings, massive overdraft, 4 credit cards with high interest and maxed out balances… Due to other mindset work I was doing, I started to also see that some of my money issues were based around resistance. About the need to stay the same and “safe” – when in reality, I very much wasn’t.

But, whilst I finally knew what resistance was, and learned to recognise it in my life, in terms of money, I didn’t really know how to deal with it at all. I found that I my life so far had not at all prepared me for the to work to remove the blocks and sabotages that I’d been gifted by a bad money mindset education.

I found Denise Duffield-Thomas and her amazing money mindset course, Lucky Bitch Money Bootcamp in early 2014, via my marketing mentor, Marie Forleo, and I don’t regret signing up at all. Me and my knickers are much happier and wealthier as a result of Denise’s work in the world.

The Money Bootcamp is a six week course and vibrant community of over 3,000 women that identifies and helps you release your money blocks. Denise’s popular course has been helping people since 2012 to upgrade their mindset.

So, why have I been talking about Denise non-stop and sharing the Bootcamp link with you now? Because Denise is running a live version of the course for the first time in three years. That means live group Q&A calls, quizzes, checklists and the momentum of 3,000 women working together.

I’ll state for the record right now that I still haven’t completed the bootcamp work, but the parts I have done have shifted so much for me already – as there really are crucial mindset shifts that need to happen so you can gracefully receive abundance in your life. It also helps in all areas in life where a change needs to be made, as the principles are easily molded towards other goals and targets where you know you feel resistance.

 

The Investment for the course and all the add-ons that come with is usually USD $1997, but for the next 15 days, until 27th October 2016, the course is only $1497 – a $500 saving for so much more value!

I really highly recommend Denise’s course as one of the best money mindset resources out there. She is known for being very down to earth, honest, practical and humorous with how she spreads her message to the world. With this live round, it really is a brilliant time to join her Bootcamp, and I for one am very excited to be working through the exercises with Denise leading them! I know it’s going to be simply amazing. I’m very much looking forward to the leaps that I know are coming.

This course has helped women generate millions of dollars and changed lives all over the world. Are you going to join us? Take action, go sign up for Lucky Bitch Money Bootcamp, come back and leave me a comment below, and we can start working on connecting those dots.

Catch you next time!

 

P.S. As you know, I am proud affiliate of Denise’s work. If you purchase a Lucky Bee product or course I may receive a commission at no additional cost to you.

How decluttering leads to more money

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I’ve spoken before about decluttering, looking at observing and decluttering the beliefs we hold that don’t serve our greater good. However, that’s really only half of the story, especially if we look at decluttering with the lens of manifesting.

First step – how to do this? I recommend reading The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying: A simple, effective way to banish clutter forever by Marie Kondo – an excellent physical de-cluttering system.

Why declutter? For successful manifesting, decluttering our physical environment is a massive key. To allow goodness to come in, we have to get rid of our old, broken and make-do things, and my manifesting mentor Denise has a post on practical decluttering and the reasons why it’s a fantastic thing.

When I first read Denise’s book “Get Rich, Lucky Bitch” on manifesting, I didn’t quite believe her thoughts on decluttering, after all, how can the first step be so simple? I’m a person that lives in organised chaos – I have things in piles, and I know where it all is.

I also now know that piles are not organisation – and where that organisation matters to me right now, all my things are in their place, neatly pared down to the essentials of the task. Decluttering is a continuing process after all!

One of the first thing Denise talks about in her Lucky Bitch Money Bootcamp is living a “first class life”, obtaining this via incremental upgrade until you reach whatever “first class” means to you in any area, so that you tell the universe that you are ready for the abundance.

Part of taking that first step, apart from making an inventory, is for 99% of women buying yourself new underwear. Most of us (me included until 15 months ago!) don’t really think about our undies, we have mis-matched and worn out knickers, bras that we wear until we fall apart and generally none of it makes us feel any form of love towards ourselves. For whatever reason, we’ve been taught that “nice underwear is frivolity” and simply don’t value ourselves enough to put good quality underwear on under our clothes.

So, about 5 months after I joined BootCamp, in the spirit of the KonMarie decluttering I’d already been doing with my things, I went through my underwear and socks, and threw out most of it. I’d been surviving on old rough socks, 2 rather geriatric bras and 20 pairs of generic “tanga” knickers that were very much past their best days.

I then did something that I had never ever done before in my adult life. I went to M&S and bought 8 sets of matching underwear (1 bra, 2 knickers) as well as a couple of 6 packs of cotton knickers for “relaxed” days. I then folded it all neatly in my drawers, in the KonMarie style that lets you see it all at a glance.

I’d never spent that much on myself, let alone on my underwear. I’d also never had matching underwear, and never had the luxury of enough bras to wash them with the same frequency as I washed my tops. Subconsciously, as my body type is not one that generally wears pretty undies, all I felt I deserved was very cheap and uncomfortable sub-par bras and knickers. I wasn’t feeling the love in that area of my life at all, and so wasn’t projecting basic openness to good things.

About 2 weeks later, at my day-job, I was offered a position on an important board, that is going to shape how the business works going forward. I also took the decision to finally declutter another products based business that I’d been hanging on, simply because I thought I might well be able to turn it around due to my emotional investment in it. Seeing however, how it was being an economy class thing in my life, where I was not giving myself love, only work for little reward, enabled be to finally let it go – having a final sale of stuff brought me more cash in 3 days than the previous hard work with it had brought me in the previous 3 months put together.

Would these things have happened without new underwear? Maybe, but I do feel that loving myself with an underwear upgrade was a very good start towards being open to the abundance and opportunities that are still coming thick and fast this year!

So, have my new knickers inspired you into some physical decluttering? Leave me a comment below about what are going to declutter from your space this week, and we can start working on connecting those dots.

Catch you next time!

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EFT – why you might want to think about giving it a whirl

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I really like EFT ( Emotional Freedom Technique.) aka “Tapping”. It lives under the umbrella of “Energy Psychology” techniques, and it looks so dumb (especially when you are tapping under your arm and on the top of your head) that you may well feel that it’s a bunch of hooey – but what you can achieve with it really is awesome.

As you know, I’m all about the science, and most double blind reputable studies point to EFT simply using “The Power of the Placebo” to affect change in a person. Now, I’m 100% with Tim Minchin on science and “Alternative Medicine” (Homeopathic Sugar pills in particular), and that “Modern Medicine” is something that should always be matched and used appropriately to an individual’s health circumstances –  but I also feel that Placebology, where the patient affects their own change because they believe that the placebo they are using will change them for the better definitely has a place in the therapeutic process.

I feel it works because it allows a person to be 100% honest with themselves, as tapping out the various issues and free-flow verbalising around them will make us make intuitive perspective leaps that we could never make in a flat state with a conscious mind. When I tap on issues myself, I’m always surprised by something I say that “just falls out of my brain via my mouth” as I’m associating.

The Founder of EFT, Gary Craig, discovered that in persons with anxiety or fear, that by tapping on 9 specific meridian points and using a set of very specific “set-up phrases” and then talking honestly, openly, and usually in negatively phrased statements about issues through the tapping process, that the issues can be reduced to a place where they have little to no on-going effect, very quickly, and with much less stress to the patient than via traditional psychological methods . He believes that the tapping mechanisms of EFT operate in the same way as Acupuncture – activating specific meridian points stimulates them to assist the body in releasing the negative energy feedback loops to remove dis-ease.

There have been studies that show the tapping has a calming effect on the amygdala. I’m sure that you know by now that the amygdala gets activated either for pleasure in the now, or in an amygdala hijack, in a response to a perceived danger, either real or imaginary.

In a fear situation, the amygdala causes adrenaline and cortisol to be released to prepare our body for action (i.e. to fight or to run). Where a “potentially harmful” situation is perceived, the amygdala works with the  hippocampus to enforce its previously learned “stay safe” feed-back loop. For instance, if a person has been in a road accident, the experienced fear gets stored away and then every time a car journey is needed, anxiety levels irrationally increase.

During his development work, Gary discovered that EFT isn’t just for “fear calming” situations, it can be used on pretty much any occurring issue:

  • Personal Performance Boosters
    • Achieving personal and professional goals
    • Public speaking
    • Sports performance
    • Fat reduction & body composition
    • Job interviews
    • Self-confidence
  • Emotional Challenges
    • Stress
    • anxiety
    • phobias
    • Depression
    • feeling overwhelmed
    • Relationship issues
    • Insomnia
    • nightmares
    • Panic attacks
    • Sexual abuse
    • Obsessions
    • compulsions
    • Traumatic memories
    • Procrastination
    • Poor grades
    • Grief
    • loss
    • pet loss
    • Post Traumatic Stress Disorder
    • Addictions
    • overeating
  • Physical Issues
    • Allergies
    • Migraines
    • Fatigue
    • Fibromyalgia
    • pain management

NB: While EFT has produced remarkable results for many people, it must still be considered to be in the experimental stage and people and the therapists that advise clients to use EFT must take complete responsibility for their own use of the technique. If you try it, give it a good go, and find that it doesn’t work for you, don’t sweat it. Just try another self help technique. Never let using EFT or any other self-help technique that I or anyone else might talk about get in the way of seeking professional medical help where required.

So, why am I particularly talking about EFT this week? Well, there’s been more ISIS terrorist activity in a few places around the world in the last few weeks (Baghdad, Ankara and Brussels) and so, in an effort to help us all combat Hate I wanted to share this Brad Yates Tapping video with you: Clearing Hatred – Tapping with Brad Yates

NB: if you have never viewed Brad’s Channel before, before you start tapping away, you must watch these two videos first – as Brad is very clear that you know what you are doing, and that you take full responsibility for your own well being.

I’m connecting my own dots on this one, as I’m currently training to be able to use EFT with you in our coaching practice. I first discovered EFT around 2000, and I’ve used it off and on since then (I’ll admit more off than on!).

I got sharply reminded about using it way more often, and in combination with Forgiveness work as part of my working through Denise Duffield Thomas’ Lucky Bitch Money BootCamp – and it’s now happily part of my daily routine again.

So, what are you going to try and use EFT on? My advice is to try it on everything :-). Pick a topic and drop me a comment below. Then we can start working to connect your dots!

Catch you next time!

“Creating” Money by scheduling it into reality

savings pots

I put creating in quotes in the title because the wealth you will create with the “scheduling creates reality” principle is actually money you already have and/or money that people and organisations give to you in “rewards” – this principle is  simply the organisation of that spare cash.

This effortless “wealth creation” is simply automated saving (a fantastic money tip I picked up from Kate Northrup in her book: Money, A Love Story )

Make specifically named savings accounts and schedule a small weekly/monthly automatic transfer that fits your budget.

I created two savings pots with named purposes (“Present Buying Fund” and “Dyeing Workshop Creation Fund”) on 26th February 2015, and set up an auto transfer of £7/week each on a Friday (£1/day). (If you are paid monthly, schedule a transfer of £30.42/month =£365.04/year))

£7/week fits my model as I “pay” myself a weekly disposable budget. And yes, I hold my “Money for life” in another savings account (interest!) and schedule the weekly transfer into my current account.

I also pop extra cash from the “reward” and “cashback” monies my bank gives me for being in credit/spending in certain shops, and if  Salary payday is a Friday, I zero my current account the evening before and tip the “left over cash” in there as well.

This “left over” money is usually under a fiver, money that would be easy to just fritter away, easy to unconsciously spend on “utter rubbish” just because it is there. I could do this zeroing every week, but I’m not that ruthless on myself (yet). It works out though, generally, my weekly left over is what pays my scheduled transfer!

I really really don’t notice any “lack” because of scheduling that tiny regular transfer. And simply because the pots exist, I don’t fritter my “reward” monies away on junk.

In the 2 months they’ve been open, they’ve built up £110124 between them!

As a bonus, I’ve also created a “no panic/stress zone” over the “where do I get the money to buy my partners a Birthday/Xmas/Anniversary/Valentine present?” issue. This in itself is a huge clarity win!

As this is working so well, I’ve made two new pots, as from next month I have “Extra Cash” coming from my mortgage renegotiation. A muck up with my pay means that I’ll also be getting a very small lump sum.

I’ve already set up a monthly “old to new Mortgage difference” transfer, and I’ve done another £1/day transfer that will also kick in after pay day. That one is towards having a month off the day-job! I’ve done all the hard work, and now its simply waiting for the money to arrive, so automatic scheduling can take care of the wealth creation for me, effortlessly!

So, have I inspired you? Take action today & open a savings pot and schedule a transfer today that will kick in next pay-day. Come back and leave me a comment below about what you are “scheduling to reality” around, then we can start working toward connecting those dots.

If it’s not scheduled, it’s not real.

GCal Schedule

When I was in my teens and early twenties, I never kept a diary/calendar and I remembered all the phone numbers that I needed (about 20 at that point in my life). I prided myself on remembering everything I needed rather than having to write it down. (I learned the periodic table, both order and atomic number/weights for instance)

Whilst my memory is still something I take a pride in, and I’m well known as having “the elephant brain” in my team (I remember everything I do generally, and when prompted, can easily recall detail level (or where to look to get it), I acknowledge that life back them was rather more simple in terms of happenings and events than it is now.

Ironically, but unsurprisingly, one thing I was never good at when I was younger was being on time or prepared for things. Although I knew where I was supposed to be, I never planned enough time to get everything done before arriving. I never honoured the space that appointments take, and I realise now that this is because I didn’t schedule anything.

I now live and die by my Google Calendar. It’s awash with colour-coded goodness and copious event notes. I now know where I need to be and when, what I need to do to prepare, I get it to send me text messages to prompt me and can therefore show up fully committed and raring to go!

For instance, I’m a B-School Alumni from 2011, but this is the first year I’ve done the entire course. Previously the time I needed to commit was just swamped in the tide of life & I faded out after the first week. So why success this year? Because I scheduled it! I carved out the time to do it in my GCal, told my partners that I was “DND”during this time and therefore I was fully engaged in the process.

Recently, I’ve also been popping in physical things that I want to achieve/own as well as the things I need to do/places I am planning to be at.

If it’s in my schedule, I will put time and effort into making it happen.
I’ve given my brain permission to act on an external ordered list, rather than juggle and procrastinate over an internal mess.

By reducing that internal mess, I gain clarity, and so actually have space to get other “to-do” tasks done along side my scheduled events! I’ve finally found a round tuit 😉

Also, by making space in my life for “a thing”, I tell my limbic brain and so the universe that I’m open to receiving said thing. Being open to receive means that either “the thing” will just turn up, or the means to obtain “the thing” will happen in my life.

So, have I inspired you? I know that I inspired myself and I’ll be carrying on in this theme next week; as I wrote this piece, another ‘blog post focusing specifically on Money Scheduling fell out of my brain and onto the page as well! *new post, cut-paste*

Meanwhile, take action today & get your schedule out of your head and either write it down or GCal it. Come back and leave me a comment below about what you are “scheduling to reality” around, then we can start working toward connecting those dots.

Catch you next week!

Why writing a goal list rather than typing it out has way more power.

my handwriting - Pen on notebook

I know that I always learn something way better when I write about it. Recently, I both changed job roles (with a promotion!) and moved fields slightly.  I moved from being an Information Security Technician into the SharePoint Architect role. As I sat with with the outgoing Architect, I sat there and scribbled notes and doodles as we chatted.

Now, my hand writing is legendarily awful, as you can see! (Yes, that really is my hand writing.) Even I have issues reading what I wrote later on, so, why would I choose to had write the handover notes when I could have used my laptop to type into OneNote to organise the same thoughts.

The reasons are two fold. Firstly, when you put pen to paper to write words around conversations, take lecture notes or form ideas, it forms far better memory pathways in the Neocortex, especially when you are summarising, as you are actively thinking about and analysing what you are writing about as you are writing it. This in turn activates neurons and forms complex memory chains, a real boost to learning. It also leads to far better understanding of the subject at hand.

Secondly, writing is also an act of creativity, to which the Limbic brain responds and acts upon, giving you emotions about what you are writing and creating life feedback from the feels created that motivates action. If you are keen to learn, or eager to visualise your goals as you write, your limbic brain will feed back this happiness, this sense of anticipation into your everyday life.

Conversely, typing is all about mechanical skills, and so drawn entirely from the Neocortex. And typed information, although generally more verbose (most of us can type faster than we write) is generally is less understood by the note taker; it gets rationalised, contextualised, and is then “filed away for future reference” by the Neocortex.

The brain is basically parking the information for future recall, but with no real understanding of this information typed. This is because the Neocortex is not at all in charge of acting/reacting to stimulus (yep, that’s the job of the Limbic brain) and so the information sluices through your brain without making a real impact or forming  the more complex memory chains you get from writing.

The upshot of all this?  The combination of Neocortex and Limbic brain working together to give both context/understanding and emotion means that the goal list you type is far less likely to actually happen than the goal list you write.

Have you a list of goals that are just all in your head? Do your goals never seem to happen? Take action now, grab a pen and a piece of paper and write down that goal list! Leave me a comment to tell me about it and we can start working toward connecting those dots.

Catch you next week!