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Meditation: How to incorporate some into daily life

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Meditation offers an option to the many people that are looking for ways to deal with mounting stress that characterises modern living. Because of overwork and the demands of a fast-paced lifestyle, millions of people are now suffering from the deleterious effects of stress. Millions are unaware that they may already be reaching the verge of a nervous breakdown.

Medical management of disorders such as anxiety and depression via purely pill-based routes. Adjusting brain chemistry is vital in the short term, as it brings much needed relief and help to a patient. However, a pill only route doesn’t  address underlying issues and patterns around what could have initially caused the problem.

The answer of “take a pill” for all our health issues. The entries in The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM) grow year on year, due to sub dividing previously listed disorders.

This is often attributed to the changing world in which we live in.  Some experts would recommend drugs that would lessen the symptoms and leave it at that.

Many people are being diagnosed with stress, and they don’t want that to turn into anxiety and depression. They realise that they need help and are keen on finding alternative methods of dealing with day-to-day stresses that does not involve taking medication. Fortunately, for them meditation offers an effective approach to help them gain a new and better outlook.

Meditation has a history spanning millennia

Numerous meditation techniques have spread to millions of folks worldwide. The practice of meditation has moved away from monasteries of all religious persuasions and entered into the secular world. This has increased the numbers of those practising exponentially,  particularly using the techniques embraced by Western cultures.

Today, millions of people around the world are engaging in daily meditation or undergoing training for a particular discipline and all of them are benefiting from this ancient practice. Some of them have also used meditation as a cure for some of the mental issues mentioned above.

Modern meditation practices are based on the traditions of two major religions; Hinduism and Buddhism. Ancient Eastern cultures were the originators of the tenets that directly influenced the current flow and structure of the many different meditation techniques known to modern societies.

Hindu texts and cave drawings dated around 3000 BC discovered in the Indus Valley in the early part of the last century show that man has been seeking stillness and enlightenment from the chaos of his own mind even when life was much simpler!

Meditation practices and their benefits

Once you make the decision to incorporate meditation into your daily routine, you are making the first step towards peace of mind and happiness. As well as leaving behind frustration, anger, and impatience.

Negative emotions such as these pile up, leading eventually to health issues, not only mentally but also physically. It can also lead to a sense of “wanting something” where spirituality is concerned.

Meditation is a great help to the “busybody” mind archetype – people who are always in a hurry to get things done and feel they have too much to do and never enough time – as it helps develop a mind that is balanced, calm, and quiet and able to function more efficiently and reasonably. It can help them understand that their perception that there is not enough time to finish everything is self inflicted.

Meditating gives us a unique glimpse at the workings of our mind. It shows us how we form our thoughts which in turn informs our behaviours. Meditation allows us to observe our thought in a detached manner, It also develops “focused attention.”  This makes it easy to discover how our negative and disturbing thoughts develop. Once understood, we can then begin to change and adapt our thoughts. Then, our behaviours also change for the better.

Having focused attention in day-to-day life brings many positive. It allows the mind to slow, think more efficiently and ultimately be freed from worry and distractions.

Your next step

To bring this all together and  help you to learn to meditate, I’ve created an 8 day mediation eCourse. I’ve also included a bonus 8 minutes meditation audio. I’ve designed them specifically to assist you to incorporate meditative practice into your daily routine.

This eCourse  is my free gift to you when you join my mailing list.  I’m positive that it will change your life, and changing lives is my mission in this world.  After all, meditation is not difficult at all. Its effects are well worth the 10 to 15 minutes of your day that a simple practice takes.

Are you ready to uplevel your mindset with mediation? Sign up to my mailing list using the form below, and we can start connecting those dots.

Catch you next time!

Train your DRAGON

DRAGON of our unconscious

As I mentioned last time, I’m now a fully qualified Coach and NLP Practitioner! I feel I’ve both learned a whole mass of new skills as well as personally up-levelling in so many ways. Apart from anything, I used the training for the “Like to Dislike” technique to “dislike” Diet Coke!

Before last Sunday, I used to drink about 2 litres every day, and definitely had addictive behaviours around it. If there was no Diet Coke in my house or at work, it was a International Diet Coke Crisis (IDCC), and I would actively feel discomfort until I could obtain my “addiction juice” (As an Ex- of mine called it). So my not having had any at all since last Sunday is a massive change for me. I now simply don’t want it. It has no power over me. Which is very strange, but very cool.

As I didn’t want to detox from both the sweetener and the Caffeine at once, I’ve been taking Caffeine tablets. My previous consumption was ~ 200mg a day, I’m down to 50mg and looking to go every other day with the tablets this week and knock it on the head totally over next weekend.

The change itself was such a simple procedure, took 15 minutes in all, and if I had not experienced the change, I would not have believed it possible to deal with an issue so quickly!

So, one of my main tasks is integrating the new tools and techniques I have into what I offer. However, something I wanted to share from the training is a very simple but powerful mnemonic about how the unconscious mind works – The unconscious mind is a DRAGON!

  • D – Drives all behaviours
  • R – Responds to repetition
  • A – Archive for emotions and memory
  • G – Governs all body systems
  • O – Only takes the path of least resistance
  • N – Negative commands are not processed – ensure positive commands are given

I talk a great deal in my body oriented eCourse – The hunger free way to a slimmer you: Ten easy shifts to a low carb way of life (currently in “pre-launch” phase) – about the unconscious, behaviours and resistance, because a change in diet has to also be accompanied by a mindset change for success. This lovely and simple way of thinking about the unconscious will very much help me to give the learning I’m creating good focus, especially in the parts where it’s been being difficult to get the concepts in my head out of my fingers in a cogent way!

Training our DRAGON is a vital thing, what are you going to do today to train yours? Maybe a Mantra? Some yoga? A walk in nature? Drop a comment below with that you are going to get up to, and we can start working on connecting those dots.

Catch you next time!

Image used, Dragon by Laddir
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Exciting news, I’m getting my certifications!

I’ve some exciting news – I’m about to complete my qualification as an ABNLP-standard Certified Life Coach and NLP practitioner.  I’m also currently working through obtaining various CMA (Complementary Medical Association), IANLPC (International Association of NLP & Coaching) and IAHT (International Alliance of Holistic Therapists) diplomas: Nutrition, Eating Psychology, Mindfulness, Meditation, Reiki and EFT.

As you know, I’m all about delivering huge value to everyone I work with, and adding this value to myself is going to help everyone I work with massively, as I can structure the information I have and the assistance I can give for best effect.

As always, I will be writing ‘blog posts and books, as well as creating accessibly priced digital resources, however, as at 09:00, 7th November 2016, the cost of my in-person sessions is going to increase:

My new in-person pricing structure will be as follows:
Ongoing Coaching/Mentoring per session –  Initial consult – Free. £67 per on-going session
The Clarity and Progress Session – £87
VIP day – £997

If you’ve been thinking about taking that next step with me, you can act now and lock in a set of sessions at the current pricing level: Simply visit the link above and invest in yourself now at current rates – there are discounts on bulk session booking for On-Going Sessions.

The future is exciting. Thank you for being a member of my tribe and I look forward to continuing to work with you, in whatever way is accessible to you, so that we can all start working on connecting those dots.

Catch you next time!

Get stuff done – make your bed

Make your Bed

One of the little things that I ask of people that I coach and mentor is a very simple and mundane thing – I ask them to make their bed every day. It only takes  a minute to pull the duvet up, straighten the pillows and make sure it all looks good.

It really seems so silly, that such a small thing would have such a big impact, but it really does. Making this task automatic means that you achieve the first task of the day before you even leave your room, and by doing it, it sets the mind up to “do more” with the day. It also gives you a little lift when you see it later, especially if you come home after a crappy day.

This excerpt from the Austin 2014 Commencement Address, University of Texas by Admiral William H. McRaven has been animated and is doing the rounds on the internet lately, is all about this, and really sums it up perfectly:

Every morning in basic SEAL training, my instructors, who at the time were all Viet Nam veterans, would show up in my barracks room and the first thing they would inspect was your bed.

If you did it right, the corners would be square, the covers pulled tight, the pillow centered just under the headboard and the extra blanket folded neatly at the foot of the rack (—rack— The Navy term for your bed.)

It was a simple task–mundane at best. But every morning we were required to make our bed to perfection. It seemed a little ridiculous at the time, particularly in light of the fact that were aspiring to be real warriors, tough battle hardened SEALs – but the wisdom of this simple act has been proven to me many times over.

If you make your bed every morning you will have accomplished the first task of the day. It will give you a small sense of pride and it will encourage you to do another task and another and another.

By the end of the day, that one task completed will have turned into many tasks completed. Making your bed will also reinforce the fact that little things in life matter.

If you can’t do the little things right, you will never do the big things right.

And, if by chance you have a miserable day, you will come home to a bed that is made—that you made—and a made bed gives you encouragement that tomorrow will be better.

If you want to change the world, start off by making your bed.

If you want to watch the full speech, it’s on YouTube (And you should, it contains excellent life advice for us all, not just a bunch of going-to-be Navy SEALS: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pxBQLFLei70
And the full transcript: http://alcalde.texasexes.org/2014/05/mcraven-to-grads-to-change-the-world-start-by-making-your-bed/

Leave me a comment about how you are going to make making your bed an automatic practice, and then we can start working on connecting those dots!

Catch you next time!

Image used, Our new handmade bed! by Miss Yasmina
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Can you “sit still” or do you need to “fill up your eyes” ?

Sit Still Or Fill Up Your Eyes

I’ve been doing personal development work the last 10 days or so, working on some of my “money stuff”, generally working on discovering and clearing my money blocks, creating an abundance mindset and specifically around making crucial mindset shifts for making passive income (Disclosure: Affiliate links) because hey, I want to create content and courses that improve the world, be a successful female entrepreneur role model for the next generation and gain clarity in my own world so I can help you to connect your dots and improve your life!

I love Denise Duffield-Thomas, she is just so down to earth, practical and totally speaks to the way I think about life. (NB: This is so important. You must resonate on a positive and human level with the people you work with and listen to in life. A good coach will turn you away if she feels that you will not work well together. Stress and combat over “personality-issues” do not make for successful self-improvement!)

Some of the work I’ve been doing has been all about my “sitting still”; being in the moment, breathing, focusing and listening to various messages. This made me think about how we “fill up our eyes” these days – using our Smartphones (Which are actually the ultimate personal computer) and tablets to “just check in”, “play a game” or various other activities that really just waste time and aren’t really engaging with the world or ourselves.

I remember when I was a kid, technology was really just breaking into the home environment, the mobile was a good 15 years away. So, as well as watching telly, I read books, played out, built things, made cakes, talked to my friends for hours on the phone. I could also “sit still”, because I didn’t feel the need for the “need to be doing” i.e. 100% engagement/stimulation, at all time. I look at my behaviours now, and the behaviours of my friends children, and we are all attached to our technology! We are “filling up our eyes” with minutae, most of which we don’t actually need to know, and some of which (especially for children) isn’t actively developing cognitive connections.

I’ve not denying that our level of tech. can be very useful; it is definitely life improving, and provides valuable learning and problem solving tools, but I’ve actively had to remember how to reach stillness again, remind myself that I can “just sit”, that I have no need to get agitated if my phone is not in my hand if there is nothing else going on, that it doesn’t matter if I’m not checking FaceBook or Twitter (the information I really need will find me) and to sit, breathe and also engage to absorb knowledge when I’ve been actively learning new stuff.

I feel that losing this stillness is a big issue. Having stillness in life allows for “reset” time, for me, this is the time where I engage with my orchids, dye my yarn, or just sit for 15 minutes on a sunny day enjoying the like on my face! I also have concern for the kids who have not actually learned about this stillness in the first place.  Yes, we all know that kids run around and pretty much never sit still, but when they do sit down, I see the automatically reaching for a device as potentially not the best idea for them…

So, can you sit still? Summer’s the perfect time to start to regain this vital skill. This week, I want you all to get out from behind your desk at lunch, go sit in the sun (Or, if you are like me, “sun-adjacent” i.e. in the shade!) and just be in the world for 15 minutes. Enjoy the sun, listen to the world around you, breathe and don’t touch your tech. during that time. Note how it makes you feel. Are you calm and enjoying the time, or agitated that you are taking time out and can’t “fill up your eyes”. Afterwards, are you feeling energised and ready to get back to your day with renewed vigour (hint: this is the desired outcome! 😉 ), or did you just feel a bit silly and fidgety, or that it was a waste of time. Leave me a comment below, and we can work on finding the moment and connecting those dots.

Catch you next time!

Credit for Sitting Still half of image used What is this life if, full of care, we have no time to sit and stare…. by Nagesh Jayaraman
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Being creative – the path to fun and mental clarity

Get Creative - A colour wheel

I feel that finding your particular creative “thing” is very important – because creating is all about focusing in the now.

Being creative talks directly to your Limbic brain. This the part of your brain that has no language, no sense of time, and can put no context to anything you experience. It’s where your gut reactions, your “feels” originate.

When you say “That doesn’t feel right, but I don’t know why” about something, that’s your Neocortex (or Rational/Cognative brain) trying to rationalise and contextualise the emotion being passed to it by your limbic brain in that moment – and failing. Because you can’t rationalise gut feelings. They just are.

The Limbic brain responds to images, colours, smells and textures – It’s working with the information your senses provide it in that moment, and only in that moment. Which is why mindful/positive thinking and creativity are so powerful.

The limbic brain responds to creativity by producing a state of happiness, a “this feels right” vibe – As a result, these positive vibes translate into your “this is how life is now” vibes, rippling and manifest themselves through your whole life.

By doing your chosen act of creativity –  painting, cooking, dyeing, knitting, origami, bonsai, decoupage, etc. etc. –  you are being fully committed to the moment. Consequently, this creates “good feels” in your Limbic brain. Which ripple wonderfully out into your life.

Me? I get my creative on by dyeing and by knitting. I love playing with colour, feeling the textures of the fibres, creating wearable art.

Want to get creative at home?
Watch my tutorial on dyeing with food colouring:

So, how do you get creative? Has my video peeked your interest? Do you now want to throw colour at things? Or do you get your art on in a totally different way to me? Leave me a comment below and we can start working toward connecting those dots.

Catch you next week!